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When I was on Reddit I felt like my opinion didn’t matter. But here it just feels more open and free.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I am more actif here than on reddit. There was a time on reddit I stopped even upvotes and down votes when I noticed they are changing philosophy. Here I post more stuff and wrote more comments. Sometimes to add value to discussions and sometimes just for the sake of commenting and getting activity rolling.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Yes, I didn't have an account and I always browsed via a proxy (Teddit). I didn't want to be manipulated by the algorithm.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

yes, never had a reddit account.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Agreed - stopped posting and sharing on Reddit a while ago. I engage more and find this place more engaging. It’s good!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

This is my second comment since joining this morning, so yes, significantly more active.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Yes. Smaller community, and generally more intelligent, or at least more capable of having a meaningful discussion.

I think it's something that happens when you throw a larger group of people together, like reddit, where people act a bit different ime

Even I am less toxic, and more positive. Something about reddit messed that up.

Atp, I'm here more for discourse than any specific content, and that's something I really missed about social media.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh for sure. It definitely seems like people are more level-headed over here, and are less likely to find the most nitpick-y thing to jump into an argument with you over.

(Which, to clarify, I don't mean someone correcting information I've posted - of course, if I've posted something incorrect I'd like to know - but even then, there is always a tactful way to go about doing so)

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I've never been much of a poster (not even 2 posts/yr for the almost dozen years I've had a reddit habit), but I was a regular commenter in various specific-interest subs.

I am, as a rule, no longer contributing content to Reddit, since they've made it clear they plan to finish their transition from "hosting communities" to "extracting value from users." Frankly, it's not as much of an imposition as I feared, because many of those communities seem to be broadly taking the same attitude.

I'm actively trying to comment heavily here to to try to help establish communities. If I had a little more free time I'd do some posting and/or try to help spin some successor communities for my interests.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Honestly, I'm trying to be more active in here. The whole defederation thing going around has me confused about where my account lives and replicating what's on it. Makes it hard to stay active if I don't know what's going to happen haha

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I hear ya. Thats why i just setup my own instance....

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I'm not sure it matters more TBH... but I basically stopped Reddit for 2 days, and now just get drawn back to read the occasional post - but don't bother commenting.

With the downtick in Reddit, I remembered that I hadn't read a book for a month or two, so I headed over to Annies Archive and grabbed a bunch to add to my Kindle...

So I now downloaded 3 versions of 'Great Expectations' and am reading that book before watching them - but also have "Welcome to the MonkeyHouse" by Kurt Vonnegut and "The Book Thief" grabbed from Annie's Archive.

Basically now I'm spending less than half the time on net than I was before.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Considering I am totally inactive on Reddit now, yes.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Only reason I visit reddit now is to see how the dumpster fire is going

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

1000%!

I actually created a community for a hobby of mine, and have been trying to post and comment more.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Yes because:

  1. I want to see it take off and want to do my bit
  2. It feels like a more chilled environment in which to participate
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Nah. Thankfully my mindless scrolling time has taken a dive, which is an issue I had been meaning to address regardless.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Yes, definitely. Maybe I feel like my contributions matter more since we are all trying to make this a viable platform? I dunno, but it's definitely more fun interacting here than on reddit.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah, I mean, I'm not the most active, but I made a sublemmy (I'm still not sure about the naming convention here lol) and that's something I never did on Reddit, because everything was usually already there in some form. I also did it to contribute, because I know that us being active actually counts for something. On Reddit I could go months without posting or commenting. So yes, I'm definitely more active and it feels like you are actually engaging with other people and not just consuming content.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I’m making myself be active here. I’m learning to build my own lemmy instance on a VPS.

I want there to be a sea change in social media. I want an authentic intellectual conversation. I was in college during the usenet era and found it easy to find mind expanding stuff there with a minimum of toxicity.

My hope is the community and software mature steadily together until it is ready to handle a significant influx.

Let’s not reward toxicity. We need to steer the conversation and the software development to reward quality engagement over quantity.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Feel free to reach out if you have any questions about hosting your own instance. I'm by no means an expert, but it would appear that I have successfully deployed my own.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Have recently made the jump from Reddit. With a brilliant 3rd part app - go figure!! I expect to be more active here.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I think I'm about as active here as I was on Reddit. Always was more of a reader.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I certainly do! Reddit was just too loud in every way.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Just started today, but as my reddit activity is going down to zero …. Yes lol

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My reddit account was soft locked for months barring me from any interaction, just lurk.

I never fixed it because i was wasting to many hours on debates. Yesterday i told my wife i was going to come downstairs after finishing my reply. It took 30minuts.

Lemmy is great and i love interacting with it but honestly i wouldn’t mind a bot that helps me to stop now and then. This cant be good for my mental health in the long run otherwise.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I empathize with this so much. I can sink hours into a forum, especially one that's open ended like this and reddit.

There are apps that give you notifications for when you've been using an app for a continuous period, as well as using your phone in general. I don't use them, but I have been considering it.

There's simultaneously too much time and not enough time. I just feel like I don't know what to fill my day with on an individual level, and then that there aren't enough days. We only get what amounts to a few thousands and then we die.

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