Come out of the closet as asexual and aromantic and the issue will disappear like a puff of smoke.
NOTE: this strategy could have negative consequences if you live in a country that doesn't recognize LGBT rights.
this post was submitted on 27 Jan 2024
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I first read that as "asexual and aromatic" and I was like, ... Well, i guess if you don't like sex and you smell like garlic....
Even my keyboard thought I meant to say "aromatic"
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One thing that has always helped me stop thinking a crush is when I've gotten another crush. I'm not sure this helps you much though lmao
I also used to get crushes on people I met who I was platonically excited about, if I thought about them too much. Lmk if this is you and I can go into more detail
I find my crushes go away on their own after about a week. Your mileage may vary.
Run. It will likely not end well
Think of all the aspects you like about her and think of all the ways they might be impractical. I know someone who said they had a crush on "the most delicate person I could have met" and I asked "but would delicacy be good for parenting" and then her crush ended.
All this advise is making me realize it wasn't just a crush.
I've not seen her for years, I try my best to have contempt for her, I don't look her up or make any sort of contact. She's dead as far as I know, and that's kinda how it feels. But I think about her often, I think about the regrets. It's been years of no contact and I'm still mourning losing this "crush"
Your feelings are yours, personally I'd just wallow in it and feel it and do absolutely nothing about it, you don't need to tell her, a crush is by definition sort of a fantasy thing. It's not her, it's some dream person you've attached to her. But I'm old so have been through this more times. It gets easier and then it gets fun.