Lately I've been feeling rather lonely. It's probably at least in part because I've had far too much time on my hands and not enough to do with that time, partly because I've been sick for the last few days and isolating and had to cancel some plans, and partly because I've been reading up a bit more about the aro experience. Oh and maybe a dash of watching my nesting partners relationship with her two wives slowly degrade in real time.
I know I'm loved. There's no shortage of people who find me interesting and compassionate and a lovely person, but very few of these people want more than a basic friendship and that feels rather isolating. It also doesn't help that I am often reminded of how little I truly understand other humans and how they approach relationships, attraction, etc. I want a deeper connection with someone, someone to build something together with, someone who I know will be there for me in the ways I'm there for others but as time goes on it just seems like more and more like a fantasy. I feel like I'm often just treated like a helpful tool that's well liked but never anyone's first choice.
On the other hand I know in ways I'm catastrophizing and things really aren't all that bad, I'm living a healthy life in a beautiful city surrounded by people I love and I have healthy relationships. I just wish I could be content with what I have because the search for something more is so exhausting at times.
