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i’m doing it because I want to make the fediverse more friendly place, in hopes of making it more welcoming for new users, and the nicer place in general. But I wonder how much is just less bots.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago

When people are rude to me here, which I admit is rarer than on Reddit, I block them a lot faster. Maybe that sort of goes against what you're saying because it means I'm less tolerant here than I was on Reddit, but I am determined to make Lemmy a more pleasant experience for myself.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The Fediverse is still new and also confusing for a lot of folks. As it grows we will see more trolls and bots. Hopefully we all learn from the mistakes made with Reddit but for now, we should enjoy the calm and try to make it a good/better experience.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago

Yes its nice when a fake internet point is really a fake internet point.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Tbh I never really commented or upvoted anything on reddit. I was always a lurker but when I started with the fediverse I feel like I can actually interact for some reason

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago

No they are not. You are in a echo chamber. :) (Happy face to show lack of hostility)

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I find that it very much depends. It was very positive a month ago, but day by day I see a lot more arguing, name calling, and petty downvoting.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (4 children)

There was a guy posting literal gifs of shit and also DMing them to people and somehow I still prefer it over reddit.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I think it's a night and day difference, I can actually post stuff here without getting attacked over some triviality.

I believe its mostly a product of the much smaller community. I think more negativity may creep in as popularity increases.

Anyway, yeah, have an upvote.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I get the same sense. It has somewhat of a nostalgic "we're all in this together" feeling that using the internet in the mid/late-90's had, and the updoots appear to be a side-effect of that.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

It seemed like a honeymoon for the first week or two, like everyone was in a good mood and would upvote whatever, and overlook things they disagreed or disapproved of. My least favorite reddit interactions were posting well intentioned, detailed comments, then it gets shadow-deleted by a mod or get a response like “no it isn’t lmao”. That entire thing of using “lol” or “lmao” to laugh at someone is really quite rude, like, it would be very confrontational to do that to someone in person.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I've made some dumb comments and posts and no one has yelled at me yet. It's really nice. I'm just here to chill and not get worked up.

Hope every else is having a good weekend.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I got a "who asked" amongst more productive banter this morning and I actually laughed and said "thank god, people can talk without a filter".

I'm okay with some stuff being toxic. Reddits moderation rules were so restricting that you couldn't have a genuine conversation or sometimes just post something that was clearly originally intended to be posted to a sub; moderation was too tight.

Freedom of speech shouldn't be inconvenienced by a fedora wearing subreddit mod. And if one Lemmy instance does, there's others you can enjoy!

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Disagreement and acceptance of controversial but well thought out opinions is really good here. I've seen it sour a little over the last few days, but considering just how contentious the overall topics themselves were, that's perhaps reasonable.

What I can say with certainty however is that even those I have most vehemently disagreed with seem like good people at the end of the day. They aren't bigoted trash nor do they delight in people's suffering. If I had interacted with them in another space, I couldn't have guessed we'd disagree so bitterly.

It's refreshing. On Reddit, the person/bot/shill would just consistently be awful. Here, I can have intense arguments with people about global issues but I can also see myself grabbing a casual beer with them afterwards.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

I totally agree. Folks are much nicer here and I feel more free to make a comment, no matter how mundane. I’m commenting and posting more than I ever would before because no one beats me up here. I still have the fear of posting anything because of the backlash, but I think that’s ptsd from the other site and I’m getting over it slowly but surely. I love this place.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (6 children)

There is no concept of karma, or karma whoring here. And no reward system or reason to farm karma to pretend to be a RealLiveHumanPerson with feelings.

not yet anyways.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Not sure about that, it was better a couple of months ago. Now I see an increase in negative and hostile content. Sadly.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

That's not a shower thought you braindead, try hard, complete waste of a human.... Get off of here; there's no room for idiots here. Reported.

JK, just thought I'd channel my inner rage-commenter for old times sake. Welcome 😄

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (3 children)

You are all wonderful humain beings!

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

The cordiality of a mob is inversely proportional to its size.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (41 children)

As someone who holds some opinions which don’t directly fit into the mainstream on Lemmy, I actually feel like people have been more aggressive to me when I share my opinion here when compared to Reddit. I will admit, I think I was also too aggressive in some of my interactions due to this unfortunately.

It’s tough because I hate Reddit for ideological reasons, and have been hoping for a viable alternative for a while, but now that it’s here I feel like it might just not be for me.

Hopefully as it grows it will become better in this regard.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

I am trying to be nice and polite here. Makes a more inclusive place for us to share content and information.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

I’m with you. We need more positive thinking instead of the instantly thinking someone means the worst, like Reddit saw. Unfortunately, many people are just happy being sour and ruining everything.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I think the exodus from Reddit is also a factor here. People are united in the cause of finding a new home.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

I think it’s also easier to moderate right now. The communities aren’t massive and there isn’t a torrent of assholes that mods struggle to keep up with.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

I also have that perception. When people disagree, instead of becoming toxic, they stay oddly cool and nice to each other here. Let´s hope this lasts when more and more reddit users join ....

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