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Coming out stories? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Hiya ladies,

With my hair growing, nails manicured, and eyebrows shaped, it's going to become harder and harder to boymode inconspicuously around family or friends (only my partner knows). On the other side of that, I'm nowhere near passing or even presenting femme in public, which makes the idea of coming out quite scary as they're seeing masculinity when I'm declaring femininity.

Part of me wants to wait like two years and then one day suddenly appear as my new completely feminine (hopefully beautiful!) self without any warning or advance notice! So people see the best version of myself, rather than seeing the mid-transition mess I am right now (or pre-transition mess I was!). But realistically I know that's not gonna work!

So I'd love to hear some coming out stories and when in your transition you decided it was right for you! And how those you came out to responded, if you're comfortable sharing that!

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Coming out was a lot easier for me than expected. My Mom's side of the family is cool and when I came out to them as a trans enby and mentioned wanting to start hormone therapy they were incredibly supportive.

What was a real surprise was my Dad's reaction. We'd grown apart since I was outed as gay at 16, and he really doesn't "get" why I'd want to transition, but after clearing up a bit of confusion he accepted me as well. Just wants me to be happy. Woo!! ^__^

[–] [email protected] 12 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Its great to hear that your dad came around :)

Personally I probably couldn't have resisted a little trolling along the lines of "Hey dad, so I am technically no longer gay..." :D

[–] [email protected] 15 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Lol, nah. I'm extra gay now =3

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

technically

lmao