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So I've realized that in conversations I'll use traditional terms for men as general terms for all genders, both singularly and for groups. I always mean it well, but I've been thinking that it's not as inclusive to women/trans people.

For example I would say:

"What's up guys?" "How's it going man?" "Good job, my dude!” etc.

Replacing these terms with person, people, etc sounds awkward. Y'all works but sounds very southern US (nowhere near where I am located) so it sounds out of place.

So what are some better options?

Edit: thanks for all the answers peoples, I appreciate the honest ones and some of the funny ones.

The simplest approach is to just drop the usage of guys, man, etc. Folks for groups and mate for singular appeal to me when I do want to add one in between friends.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 8 months ago (4 children)

"Guys" is gender neutral already...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

Yeah, as long as it's what's up guys. Used in a plural sense. If you say you're a guy or this is my tech guy, ehhh not fun.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Yet is isnt. Y'all however is.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago (2 children)

But y'all makes you sound like an idiot.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I'm not sure what y'all are talking about but the plural is "all y'all"

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago

All’y’all’ll get it eventually

[–] [email protected] -1 points 8 months ago

What's got all y'all's balls in a knot, youse folks?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

damn guess every speaker of multiple english dialects sound like idiots

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

They asked for an option to it.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Lol no it isn't. How many guys have you had sex with recently?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

How many groups have you had sex with lately? ΰ² _ΰ² 

[–] [email protected] -5 points 8 months ago

The question I'm asking is literally about a group of guys in the first place, I dont think "guys is plural" is a good retort.