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I have accomplished nothing during the past two months, but I feel like I haven't had a break (feddit.it)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Due to a certain situation I'm living at work (for about two months now) I've basically given up tending to all the other stuff in my life and it's really starting to impact my relationships, my mental health and my job itself.

I feel so overwhelmed about all the stuff I still need to do I'm starting to have meltdowns everytime something new pops up (even something as small as a friend's birthday).

Just yesterday I managed to tackle one of the things I've been procrastinating and felt no satisfaction whatsoever due to the huge amount of things that still need to be done and situations that need to be addressed.

I feel I'm only able to handle one "crisis" at a time, and the moment there are two going on, everything else becomes one.

I also can't stop thinking about this whole situation, it's like my brain is constantly active but in the end I can't manage to get me to do anything. It's exhausting.

Does it happen to you too? How do you deal with that?

Edit: thanks to everyone who took time to reply and give honest advice. I'll read all the messages at the end of my shift

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, been here before. Something that truly does help me is making lists like others said. When you add your tasks though, list out the subtasks required too. It helps you visualize the problem better and sometimes makes you realize that your brain is making a mountain out of tasks that are less involved than you realize.

I’m a programmer and sometimes my ADHD makes me sweat when I see incoming work projects. But as soon as I finish a first pass on a list of what needs to be done and the project is broken out into features and tasks within those features, it’s much more mentally manageable. The reality is that you can’t do all of those things at once anyway, so all you can do is divide and conquer. If anyone has a problem with that, fuck em.

I’ve spent a lot of my life trying to hit an expectation target that is often times manufactured in my own head, or just completely unknown and I’m worrying for nothing. The other times, it was someone asking for something completely unreasonable and I had to come to terms with that. I know how quickly I work and how I work. If people don’t like it, I can’t please them and that’s their problem not mine.

I always try to tell myself that no one is getting anything from me if I’m not healthy and supported myself, so fixing that comes first. Sometimes you have to force yourself to remember that you are your own person that deserves happiness and isn’t a slave to anyone else’s unrealistic demands. You control what you do and you work in your own way. Don’t let yourself manufacture expectations because your own brain will always keep them super high.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

Yeah, I've been often told to make lists but the habit never really stuck with me. I guess it's time to change that

I’ve spent a lot of my life trying to hit an expectation target that is often times manufactured in my own head, or just completely unknown and I’m worrying for nothing.

I feel this so much, it's scary how reality is often so different from my own perception. I realized it recently and I'm starting to suppress these thoughts entirely, unless I have explicit evidence of what people expect of me.

I always try to tell myself that no one is getting anything from me if I’m not healthy and supported myself, so fixing that comes first.

That is definitely true, unfortunately when you are in the loop it's easy to forget that. I guess I need to talk and express how I feel more to solve that.

Thanks a lot for your comment. Also amazing instance name lol