Looking for some advice - dating a Chinese girl (lemmy.world)

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This isn't a race thing, more of a cultural thing.

I met a girl on Hinge, she is from China but studies in my city in the UK. We both had a good time, it was a simple coffee and walk date, I walked her home after and we agree'd we would see each other again next week.

What I don't know is, how will the differences between our cultures affect dating? I don't want to cross any boundaries I shouldn't and most of all I don't want to offend her. I plan on talking to her about these things if we go on to have more than 3 or 4 dates, but in the mean time, is there anything I should know?

I really enjoyed the company of this girl, and I can see myself having something special with her but I'm also being cautiously optimistic, it has only been 1 date after all.

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[-] [email protected] 8 points 7 months ago

My advice on all things like this is to treat every person as unique, and not make too many assumptions. Yes, the culture that a person was raised in impacts who they are, and there are cultural norms that tend to be true. But China is a big and diverse country. A person who grew up in a small village in China will have a much different experience than someone who grew up in a big city, just for one example.

Also, remember that she is here now, and she isn't going to be expecting things to be like China. She may not even want that

Be respectful. Don't push if she sends reluctant to share something. Get a sense of her as a person and what she wants by talking to her. Same advice holds true for anyone you might be dating.

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