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Moved up to the "Big City" in October. Today I was fired by a woman with a smile on her face.

My biggest complaints were being isolated from my peers, not having enough work to do, and not receiving feedback on my work performance directly.

I was accused of working outside of scope, not being able to separate my personal feelings from work, and not responding to doctors in a timely fashion. No specific or documented instances of any of these accusations were provided to me.

So now I'm alone, in a way more expensive city, with about the same amount it cost to move here left in the bank.

I think I'm done with healthcare. As a trans person, working inside of it is fucking awful, especially in large hospital organizations. I don't think it helps I graduated from nursing school in 2020.

What now? This was my dream job, at an organization (I thought) had their shit together. It was a nightmare on the inside - no support, no community. Call staff couldn't "handle" trans patients, so we have to call a separate line that might have someone call you back.

I came up with so many ideas, ways to improve, best practices we aren't following. Patients getting dead named and misgendered in charts, at the pharmacy, to their face. Asleep in the OR during surgery.

I've never been more confused about a job ending. I literally said I would do anything, work overtime, adapt my style, learn 6 different specialties, anything I could to help.

They never even listened to me. Why did they bring me all this way just to ignore me?

The worst part, I think, is that I don't know if I will ever really trust another human the same way. I thought this was a safe place where I could talk openly about what was deficient, and how to alleviate that. But I did that, and they didn't want to hear it, and now I'm on my own again.

I really thought we could build something truly special. I guess I'm just disappointed I'll never get a chance to see what that could have been.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago

That's sucks! I don't know anything about anything but if you relocated for a job and they fired you within a certain time period depending on where you are located, you may be entitled to financial compensation. I'd contact your local labor board. Also if you feel like you were fired due to discrimination you should contact your local labor board and see if they'll arrange an attorney for you as well. Sometimes crappy things aren't so crappy in hindsight. I'm sure though it doesn't feel like it now and I'm annoying AF saying it, down the line you'll find yourself better off and grateful things worked out this way. It sounds like you got your foot in the door of an industry you want to work in, but these people, this environment, was not your dream job. It is relevant experience towards your dream job, though. Keep the dream alive!