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I’m pretty close with this person outside of work and we used to have good non-work conversations but now I feel all I get is stories and photos of her children. We work in a tight knit team so I can’t really avoid them.

I got no less than 3 updates this weekend about a sports event with her kids including photos; more photos and another update about said event this morning; another photo of another child; updates about what her toddler was doing, and updates about how her kid made the track and field team and she absolutely needs to take time off work to go.

I don’t ask for this and I don’t really respond when she does it. I prefer to talk about other things. We used to talk about other things and now it’s kids 99% of the time to the point where it feels really one-sided. I tried to talk about a concert I went to this weekend and got really lukewarm reception.

I’m thinking I need to tone it down and say goodbye to the relationship/chit chat for a while? I feel if I tell her bluntly I’m tired of hearing about her children it will hurt her feelings. Any ideas?

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I totally feel you, i knew people like this kind too and sadly the only way to make them pause this topic is to have a little pause on friendship or to tell the hard truth that you don't like kids (if you do). I found no other way to stop people from talking about this topic.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

Yeah she knows I hate kids. When she told me about the weekend I responded “That sounds like my personal hell.”

Idk I guess I need to fade out for a while. I don’t know how to give her a stronger hint that isn’t hurtful!