this post was submitted on 21 Jul 2023
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How do you know when it's just a rough patch vs time to end a romantic relationship? I know it's quite personal and varies by relationship, so I'm more interested in folks' experiences than in a general rule or standard. (Although if you do have a rule of thumb to share, would love to hear it too.)

Note: I'm not speaking of abusive situations, but of relationships with ordinary troubles.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

When you know you will just know. Trust me. Just ended my 10 year relationship. It sucks. I just knew it was time for me to go. When you've both stopped trying. There is no emotional or physical connection or intimacy. You have differing goals in life. There is constant conflict or abuse in the relationship. Lack of communication, etc. I can go on and on. You'll know.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

It's true. When I posted this I was basically at that point, but it still took me a few months to pull the plug. I ended up leaving my partner of 5 years towards the end of 2023 and it was absolutely the right call. It's made my daily life more challenging in some respects, but the peace of mind that came from not needing to deliberate anymore was SO worth it.