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Seconding what Elise wrote. Nail polish and clothing do it big time for me, but as for make up I also appreciate differences around my eyes the most. Per trial and error, and help from my more makeup-experienced friends, I started out with a pencil eyeliner and used it to water line my lower eye lid primarily (pretty easy and forgiving) and practicing making small wings. I then gradually added eye shadow, liquid liner (which I now use for upper lid, wings and drawing small cute hearts on the side) and finally mascara. Really, really makes a big difference, especially if you're prone to exhausted looking eyes. I can also recommend a liquid shadow if you find the powdered stuff to be messy, just got one from a friend the other days and applying it is a breeze.
Though in general, if you don't feel like makeup does a lot, try to apply more/it in a more extreme way - just for practice, can always remove it instantly. Getting used to what you might consider 'overapplying' could be what's missing :3 Kinda like when you learn juggling, you'll often either move too much forwards of backwards while practicing, so overcompensate the other way to and eventually even it out.
And lastly, though I haven't tried anything like it myself, traditionally male/masculine faces often have a different composition when it comes to jawlines, bones and such - so you could experiment with highlights and shadows. You'll eventually land on something you like <33
Looks like I’ll be buying eye makeup stuff next trip at the drug store. Ty!