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Would someone please help me understand when using "they" as a catch-all pronoun is transphobic? (hexbear.net)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I've seen a few posts recently calling people out for using "they" when referring to someone with gendered or neo pronouns.

As a long time dumb guy I was under the impression that gender neutral pronouns were basically always acceptable and I'm now concerned that I have been unintentionally making people uncomfortable.

My current understanding based on context is that once someone has made their pronouns known, unless specifically included, 'they' is no longer acceptable. Thank you in advance for taking the time to help me out

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

But if you're using he/him for strangers just because they're "clearly a cis man"

Right, but OP was saying they're using They/Them in cases of ambiguity and getting called out for it

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

They were called out for using they/them in cases with no ambiguity, as in, there was a known desired pronoun and they used they/them instead