The medication is a blood thinner, the patient is a competent adult not in delirium, A&OX4. There are 2 ways to see this:
Manager's and a group of doctor's POV: you are a nurse and it's your job and duty to do that. Plus, we know better than him what's good for him. These people have built their identity around working in healthcare and to them this means I have to stay in the room and make sure the patient takes the medication.
My POV: nursing is not a calling but a job. What my manager and these doctors think is stupid:
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the patient is a competent adult not in delirium, A&OX4. He's old enough to know what happens if he doesn't take the medication because we have told him a number of times already. I'm not his father and I'm not ready to treat a competent adult like a child.
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I have other patients and I'm not going to waste my time watching a patient silently until he decides to take the medication. I'm charting that I left the medication next to him and told him he needs it and why and that I have other patients to take care of.
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It is stupid to watch a person while doing nothing when I should be working with my other patients. It's also invasive as f*ck.
I see it like this: my manager and this group of doctors are not ready to respect a person's autonomy whereas I'm not ready to ignore this same autonomy, even if it means a negative outcome. Respecting a consenting adult's autonomy means respecting his bad choices as well. I feel this group of doctors and my manager are not ready to respect any patient's autonomy.
At this moment, this is a hill I'm willing to die on. AITA?
ETA: I wrote about a group of doctors, because there are other doctors that don't give me hard time if a patient refuses his medication, they simply chart it and move on. I like working with doctors like this because I feel they don’t judge and respect the patient's autonomy as well.
Yeah, I am salty. Some nurses are antivaxxers, ffs. People look to them for their “expertise”, but nurses often have little or no medical education, and some don’t even accept proven medical science. I have no doubt that a few nurses have helped kill people, by reinforcing their bad decisions and ignorance.
If a nurse knows more about a patient than a doctor, then have a conversation with the doctor. Don’t just roll your eyes and let the doctor keep making decisions that aren’t helping the patient. A lot of hospital accidents happen because of poor communication. Don’t perpetuate the problem.
Yeah, the healthcare-for-profit system is fucked. That doesn’t address the core issue, though, which is a nurse giving themselves permission to ignore management/experts and do their job poorly.