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I hope you never plan on having kids. Kids come first, if you can’t put them before yourself and deal with your shit on your own time you’re only hurting them.
How would you feel if the person who’s watching them decided they couldn’t because they needed 10 minutes? It’s only acceptable for you since it’s your kid? Shit take.
There's a wide distance between supervising a young child responsibly (which obviously must be done at all times) and engaging in play (which you should do when you can and you'll be glad you did, but if you just don't have it in you, it's not a crime to sit quietly for a few minutes).
If you were paying someone to take care of your kid, you would be perfectly fine with them saying no when the kid asks to do something?
I don't think that's really comparable, a parent isn't being paid, a babysitter can choose not to babysit. And besides, it really depends on what the kid's asking to do. I've definitely been told I can't do things when I was being babysat.
Babysitting? Think more childcare services. You get what you pay for with babysitters.
Parents aren’t paid, but you should be putting in more effort than you expect from paid child care workers.
Parenting is a 24/7 job. You need to take your breaks while on the clock because you're never off the clock. Paying someone for childcare services is a job with a start and end time. You can take your breaks before or after. The expectations are different because the jobs are different.
Parenting isn’t a 24/7 job who’s told you that? Most people have partners and you get breaks when your kid is sleeping, at school, and being cared for by others. If you can’t do it, you should be paying someone so you can get your break. Not neglecting your kids.
It’s not different, people just use it as an excuse to be terrible to their kids.
I'm living through this right now. I don't need anyone else to tell me anything. My partner and I alternate on childcare while the other person handles other household duties and day job duties. Our parents come by regularly to help out and we use that time to catch up on sleep as best as we can. Paying for childcare doesn't make sense as it just negates most of one person's income. If I'm going to be working anyway and not resting, I'd much rather put that energy towards my kid and have less money than be away but have sightly more money.