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Getting Over a Breakup (midwest.social)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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How have you successfully gotten over a breakup? I did not end the relationship and it was the most significant of my life. I feel confused and trying to understand why. I'm not sleeping well and my anxiety has decided to resurface. I'm ruminating. I don't have many people to go to about this. Please don't say I will find someone else, because I can't go there right now. And I know it won't happen anyway.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I have. But it took literal years, I think about 3 or 4 years to completely get over it.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

For sure, same here. Maybe longer. Looking back it was for the best that things ended, but boy did it suck at the time.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

That's a very long time.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It can be. But also don't be hard on yourself if it does take a while. It's okay if it does. It's also not as intense for as long.

Maybe a therapist would be helpful as somebody you can vent to and help you through it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thanks, I have an appointment next month. It's tough in the interim.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Glad to hear! Hopefully you find it helpful (if not find someone else).

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

But you come out the other end a stronger person than you were before.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think so too.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I've had past experiences with this type of stuff. It gets easier over time, with time being key.