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What a ridiculous question. "Is a stabbing really more hurtful than a gunshot?" They're both hurtful!

Hyperbolic. Nobody is being shot, people feel offended for more or less valid reasons.

Hateful content is routinely disguised as memes, "just asking questions", "just a joke", etc

So? The burden of proof that this is hate is on you. Apart from this: Even if it was hateful, it's not unlawful per se. If it becomes unlawful that's a whole other topic.

It's super easy to teach a child to hate, for instance.

Yes, children are children, they're supposed to be stupid. They will hate another kid because it wears glasses, is fat, nerdy or because it's Tuesday. You won't change that, you just add another layer why certain kids will hate others. Hate because of hate. Doesn't sound like a good plan.

If every "good" instance blocks the hateful ones, then no one will see their content unless they go out of their way to sign up for that specific instance. That's a good thing. It keeps the hate locked away where it's hard to stumble into.

Ah the hear no even, see no evil, speak no evil approach. Yeah that has always worked out pretty well, ask the French about Zemmour and Le Pen, the Germans about the AFD and so on.

Now, what counts as hate? Whatever the admin decides. If the admin chooses to delegate that decision to the users, it's still the admin choosing to do that. If you don't like that, find a different instance.

Ah there it is, the leftist authoritarian. Whatever Big Brother decides is good for me.

Fuck hate. Fuck Nazis. Fuck the alt-right. Defederate them.

Have a look at the state at which the right wing parties are re-emerging in Europe, look at Reassemblement National, Vox, AFD, etc etc.

That is only possible because people like you think that containment and oppression of dissenting discourse and opinion is a good thing. You're the new Neville Chamberlain and I fear what the result of this new cowardice will be.