Hanlon's Razor comes into play here. If you don't believe me

No no, I already believe that. I think that's one of the most soothing and comforting adages ever. I suppose it's just not in many Americans' culture to think in terms of "what good can I be to society during my lifetime/today/in this situation," rather than "how can I help myself/make the smallest burden for myself, right now". I dunno.

I remember when I came to America for a few months, twice. I would gain a lot of weight both times. I thought it was quite frustrating. But cheap food really is bad for you.

That's a cute story about your brothers. ☺️