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[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Lol, my father constantly telling me to toughen up is what led to me going to therapy.

Toughening doesn't permanently do the trick, it leads to repression of emotion and is a very isolating thing. It's better instead to be vulnerable and expand your support network. One strong tree isn't as strong as the interlocked roots of a forest.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

Like most things, toughening up can be helpful in some situations but when used for everything it becomes counterproductive. Like letting petty insults slide when they don't matter is a pretty handy skill, but there is a need to also know when not to and when to reach out so that there is support for when it is needed.

I'm sorry your father did that to you.