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Discuss any manner of relationship. Friends, roommates, dating, marriage, spouses, kids, etc.

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/394982

I've noticed variations of 'calm down' don't work.

Lots of ppl in arguments in the hood

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

It depends on the type of argument. A shouting match is wildly different from people insulting and disrespecting each other passive aggressively. And what do you want to achieve with the diffusion? Do you want to avoid immediate escalation into violence, or do you want people to come to some sort of agreement?

In either case, people tend to argue because they both feel attacked. Making them feel heard, and then explaining that it does not help to argue with the other party, because they don't want to listen (right now), would be what I would try.

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