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Chemistry and attraction.
How is that a red flag? Did you misread the OP's question?
Loads of people have habitual attraction to unhealthy relationship patterns.
Being drawn to the same kind of asshole over and over can feel like a chemical green flag, wisdom and experience show it's a red flag and things always end the same unhappy way
Fair enough, but it's not like you should pursue people you don't find attractive or have any chemistry with. That's more of a self-red-flag that you need to work on yourself before get out there.
When lust was just the appetizer before love, not just empty calories as usual.