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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Congrats on cracking your egg! Welcome to the family! A few things that I suggest to start out with is to begin wearing panties under your boy mode clothes. Also paint your toenails. Long flowing skirts are amazing must-haves in your new wardrobe, look for "maxi skirts" and pair them with any old T-shirt and a cardigan for an instant easy girly look!
Ive been painting my nails for a few years, so thats definitely part of my repertoire already. Maxi skirts definitely look like a winner! Is there some trick to figure out my size for women's clothes? Im a little intimidated by the idea of shopping in person, but im guessing ill just have to work up the courage and experiment.
Take your measurements! Most brands post sizing charts for their clothing online, and you can use those as a good reference with what should fit you best.
Totally get you on shopping in person being intimidating. Shopping online can be great when they have charts, but make sure to read the reviews too!! See if people say that the clothing in question runs small or large, or if it's generally true to size. That can give you an idea of if you should size up or down from what the chart says.
In cases where there's no chart, you gotta give it your best guess. Sometimes, brands will list some of the basic measurements in the item description box. But ultimately, you're gonna wanna know what the return policy is and how you can go about returning items that don't fit quite right.
Sadly, there are some things that can be very difficult to size online, like bras, for instance. Going with bralettes or bandeaus or sports bras will be much easier at first. The subreddit a bra that fits has a calculator online that can help you out with finding your bra size using your measurements when you're ready for that.
Personal advice, but if you're new to women's fashion and interested in styling for your body there are so many guides online to dressing ways that will flatter your figure and look great on you. They're not the be all end all and you shouldn't feel confined 100% by what they say, but if you're like "I don't even know what would suit me" it can be a great way to get some ideas :)
Thank you! I'm definitely in the "i dont know what would suit me" camp, so i'll look into finding some guides.