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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

You're completely right and it's taken me a while to get there. My engineer brain always wants to be solution oriented, but sometimes my GF just needs someone to vent to, and that's ok!

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

omfg as an engineer SAME! I've struggled with both sides of this somehow. Being a great problem solver gives you some very useful tools, but they're not always the right tools for the job in interpersonal situations. It's taken some time to remember in the moment that venting usually contains emotions greater than the specifics of what's being discussed, and as a partner the emotions are generally the important part. Solutions come easy once everyone's calm, if they're even necessary or possible in the first place.