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My go to is "how was your weekend?" Hopefully they'll drop enough information that you can turn it into a conversation.
It usually ends in awkward silence. π€
I kind of hate when people ask my things like that because I often had a fun weekend but now can't remember what all I did so I have to stop and remember for a while before answering, so I usually just say it was nice and hope they don't ask for more details.
Eh. Yeah. I don't usually have a lot in common with people, so I try to find some common ground that can start a conversation. I'm not very good at noticing what people like/do, so this gets a conversation moving.
I also forget my weekends. Which turns into a topic of conversation too. π¬
I hate it for exactly the opposite reason - I seldom go anywhere or do anything interesting the weekend.
I hate when people ask me this because either it makes me think about how I didnβt get to what I wanted on the weekend, or how I was depressed over the weekendβ¦ On a good day the problem is that I mostly like to keep my hobbies and personal life to myself. I guess Iβm probably hard to get to know π .
I know what you mean.
I started doing it because I noticed that I felt lonely at work, so I put an effort into small talk and making myself a bit more available. Part of that involved being more open about my hobbies and free time. It was worth it for me.
I had an acquaintance that started following hockey solely so she would have a conversation starter. I don't have that kind of commitment, so I just do the weekend thing.
You: "How was your weekend?β Them: glares at you in silence