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I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"

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[โ€“] [email protected] 60 points 1 year ago (3 children)

The usual acne related ones, like washing my face more or using tooth paste on my spots. Turns out clearasil won't fix your hormones.

Use olive oil instead of sun screen because it works better than SPF and isn't full of chemicals.

When taking a taxi on a short stop over in Dubai, the taxi driver told me not to have blue hair (which I had) or no man will ever want me, while my then boyfriend was also sitting in the taxi, masquerading as my husband (we were wearing rings and just letting people assume we were married, which everyone did. Including the taxi driver!)

Work related: don't make my code too "complicated" or my one coworker can't understand it (read: my coworker doesn't know what async means, and instead of him learning, I'm just not ever meant to do anything async... When processing huge amounts of data... Also, error handling is too hard, don't do that either) yes, I will forever be salty about this. He deleted weeks worth of work while I had covid because he didn't even try to understand it - his reasoning being "it doesn't work anyway, so there's no point in understanding or learning what I'm doing"

[โ€“] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Where do you work that allows someone to just delete someone else's work all willy-nilly? If someone did that to my code I'd be PISSED.

[โ€“] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago

Someone did that to my whole project. I had catefully migrated all the source control to a new and improved system. Out boss decided which project went into which organization.

Some idiot went and intentionally deleted a project I was meant to do maintenance because he had decided all by himself that it wasn't meant to be there.

I had to do a long train ride to the idiot's office for a training and when he told me what he did (proudly!) I gave him the sort of verbal bollocking I have never done before or since.

To the point where he contacted our boss to complain. I got a call from my boss to excuse himself on behalf of the idiot.

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)
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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

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[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I like reading vim commands as if they were spoken. "Good game daddy girl colon wanna quit" (idk)

[โ€“] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

A game changer I had for acne as a teen was putting a new towel on my pillow every night. My pillow was likely riddled with Cutibacterium acnes from sleeping with acne.

It helped another friend with an acne problem as well.

Mind you that bacteria isn't always the cause of acne, but it's worth trying this trick for any people out there going through it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah, my painful acne lasted far into adulthood. Found out it was 100% hormonal and finally got on something to treat it.

There's a lot of things that can cause acne.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Same. The amount of times I've heard "have you tried Proactiv?" as though it wasn't the first thing I went and bought when I was 15 is just aggravating. The fact that not even doctors seem to know much about the internal causes of acne and how to treat it is really just embarrassing.

I've also heard the "change your pillowcase" thing far too often. If your pillowcase is so dirty that it's the one thing that stands between you having acne and not having acne, then it sounds like you might have bigger issues lol.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

tho to be fair "change your pillowcase" is probably a decent bit of advice for a lot of teen boys in particular. I knew a lot of guys in college who only washed their sheets once a semester. ๐Ÿคข It's the "Have you tried turning it off and on again?" of acne advice.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

That would have been actually useful advice! I actually did start doing that a couple of years ago, and it really did help. It didn't clear it up, but the acne hasn't been quite as aggressive since. I also do other things now too, so I'm in a pretty good place for my face skin at last lol

[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Wow that last bit sucks. I'm assuming you don't use GIT and could roll back your changes or fork it from a previous point.

I think that would push me over the edge.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I typed a long reply, forgot to hit send and my reply is gone lol

But yeah, we actually do use git. I was brought into the team to be the git "expert" of the team. But while I was away, not only did he delete my work, he replaced it with something that can't work in the long term and then presented it to my boss, stake holder equivalent and the non-technical testers as the final version. His implementation was "finished", mine was not and I was too angry to look at his work. So in the end, I made it crystal clear that this can never happen again and I made it super clear to everyone involved in the project that my responsibility lies in the X part, and if someone needs something done for the Y part, they are to go to my co-worker. So like a clear division of responsibility.

I also don't have the time to un-fuck up his work. I asked him to integrate certain parts of the original implementation, but he threw a tantrum and yelled that I have no right to tell him what to do. (Ok but even if I were telling him what to do, I have 6 years of experience and a CS degree on his 1 year and no formal training, so like...)