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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I agree with the sentiment but it is easier said than done - splitting finances, houses, assets, debts etc is a mahoosive pain in the arse, and may well be perceived as less of an evil than actually putting up with the daily shit.

Ultimately though I do agree, it doesn't change without some fundamental movement - either recover what relationship you have with the wife, or start planning a 12 month strat to get your shit in order and pivot to a more single lifestyle for a while.

Good luck bro/broette. You got this, and we're happy that you're here.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Better to spend a year prepping and live happier than spending a lifetime being miserable.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just choose a hobby and do that once or twice a week as your time. If she has any issues tell her to fuck off.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

She's not mean, she's just indifferent and distant. An emotional wet blanket

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

What I'm saying its okay for you to do your own things.

You don't need to be around her 24/7 and something that will make you happy and recharged could be good for you both.

It's like the oxygen mask. You got to put yours on first before helping others

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

On the spectrum? Or the dark triad spectrum? Inb4 you tell me she's a surgeon or one of those insurance mathematicians.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Maybe try therapy? Would you she be up for that and would you? Just thinking out loud. There is usually a reason people are indifferent and distant, and if you guys had a setting you could analyze and talk about it, maybe that would be good?