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And to single nyets, are you in the "move-in together as soon as you can afford to" camp, or "delay it even when you already can coz reasons" camp?

Living habits play a huge role in cohabitating happily in the long term personally. Having fun and enjoying each other's company won't have much mileage if you can't stand each other's living habits!

For some, you may live together way longer than you'd be in love with each other even >.>

Sharing a home together also gives you an idea on how responsible, proactive, clean and how well they manage and balance chores, duties, and time together. In my (limited) experience, most people who has never lived on their own, generally do not take the initiative or have the know how to fix, improve and maintain a house. I suppose that's not important for some.. but for me who's always taken care of her own space and prioritises on efficiency, I have my way of doing things and living together first can help us optimise ourselves to each other, or it can also highlight just how incompatible we might be. If anything, I'd say this is just as important to a relationship as any, if not the most.

So, for you non-single nyets: any inputs? How soon did you guys move in?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'm a huge believer in moving in together before marriage if at all possible. Would strongly strongly recommend. I had an experience many years ago with this, where I learned my partner and I worked great up to that level but not beyond it. Thank GOD we didn't get married before finding out.

Lots of people have that story where you have a friend you really like, and then you become roommates and they make you crazy. Imagine that but it's for life and also you make a kid with them so you're sorta trapped. Why would you put yourself through that without a trial period???

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

IKR???? It's so AVOIDABLE.

I wonder if it's like a big romantic gesture to some people like "I will love her no matter what" sorta deal.

Also, apparently "common sense" is not universal. Guys don't learn that the hard way bruh.. I can't stress enough how we should move in first and if not, just take a one week holiday at the very least, and plan it together. That's another can of worms if got... xD

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Haha reminds me of a couple I know who never lived together for the 8 or 9 years they were together, went for a long trip to Europe together, and broke up right after…

Poor lady wasted so much youthful years on the rel.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

listen to wise unker hyatt