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You are unfairly holding the entire world to your personal myopic standards. Romantic relationships don't hold the same importance for everyone (they aren't even held as positive by many orthodox communities of the world), and the fact that more people have started to avoid having them just out of convention in the West may even be a good thing. Who are you to denounce every single man as someone sick or deficient? Why does the existence of a relationship have to be tied to a person's social skills or standing?
Read generously, OP's point can be taken to refer to relationships generally, i.e. social skills. A lack of engagement with dating in and of itself doesn't point to someone being sick or deficient, it could indicate any number of things. I don't think there's anything implied about judging individuals here.
A societal trend of young people having fewer healthy interpersonal relationships at all is troubling. We're a social species living in a world that requires a certain amount of cooperation both for societal function and individual wellbeing.
Social isolation is a killer, both in terms of its effects on the person isolated and to society at large via the actions of (a statistically higher proportion of) those who are socially isolated.
A call for ameliorative measures against such a trend is not a personal attack on anyone.
Both of you are absolutely right - I think that the OP's emphasis on romantic relations is actually a symptom of the fact that an excessive amount of emphasis is put on forming romantic relationships over platonic ones
I agree. People are unhappy because they've been conditioned to think they lack something vital if they don't have romance. When really, a lot of times we're better off without all that drama.