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I just don't fucking care.
If people prefer WhatsApp because "everyone is using it" then bad luck for them reaching me. Facebook? Am I mentally challenged? If you want to know stuff about my life, ask me. If you want to see pictures of my lovely pet, ask me. Who needs this upvote-circlejerking of fake posers?
If someone really cares, they'd jump on the platform I use or they don't.
Of course I am willing to explain and even install everything for the technically challenged. Also explain, in detail, WHY I'm so strict.
Only thing I am using mainstream with is the stupid pixel-phones. Ironically they're the easiest to un-google. And there is no (good) alternative yet.
What do you do when they feel the same way and don't understand why you think you're worth so much extra time and effort to interact with compared to everyone else?
Do you just cut those people out of your life?
If someone wants me to install a service exclusively to speak to them: fuck em, not worth it.
I use basic text messages to contact people, it's damn near the most universal thing people have when I meet them. I'm not gonna go out of my way to download an app and remember to use it for a specific person when texting exists and everyone else uses it already
This is the argument I typically get from others (though, not as aggressive). I don't blame this stance at all; it makes sense and is reasonable. I try to extol the benefits of the alternatives I propose but there's simply no getting past "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" attitudes.
Sure, it's a reasonable stance. But i would just part digital ways with that person then. Why should, let's say, whatsapp be the default someone has to deviate from? Just because it's #1 (by count, not quality)? Should I feel extorted to install it because "everyone does"? Why is it ok this way round?
Well fine by me. Basic text messages work.
It's not really "so much extra time". It's installing another app. And they're not cut out then, i still exist in the real world ๐ But i won't use whatscrap, fuckbook and the likes. Period. And honestly, if people don't even question why those things are horrible, i question myself why I'm interacting with them in the first place.
But it probably helps to be an old antisocial ๐
Absolutely based. I'm working on it to be like you, man.
I'm an old geezer. Ignorance comes with age ๐
no normalizing overused word plese