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So I asked my trans care doctor about ffs and set up an appointment with the surgeon over a year ago, going over what could happen, what to expect, his methodology, etc. The surgeon I saw does it in a 3 phase manner: top, bottom, and then the middle to allow even healing. Made sense to me. This also worked with my life since I had minimal PTO to take and was worried about taking long term breaks from roller derby. The forehead was done first in April of this year. After having a scan of my skull done and a 9-camera photo of my face, they found that a grafting of the sinus cavity did not need to be done and could "grind down" the forehead to achieve the results
Huh, that's really interesting. I wasn't sure what all they could do. I feel like I have a really square jaw that my beard helped hide. And once I started my acceptance journey, I shaved it off and got really confused because I felt like I looked even more masculine. But I can't handle having a beard anymore so I've been trying to just deal with it. I think I'm getting used to it now that it's been a few weeks and I'm not "moving my face weird" anymore like my wife was saying lol.
Did you get an idea of how you would look after all the surgeries? Like, did they show you an approximation of how you would look?
This is still all new for me, so I know basically nothing at the moment ๐
Not really(?) The pictures and approximation with pen to demonstrate the contouring gave an idea, but I just had to trust the surgeon and go head first into it. I also had the "dysphoria beard" ๐
Glad I'm not the only one with the weird beard issues. At first it made me doubt my self but I also had a beard for almost 10 years. Now that I'm used to it more I don't think it's too bad. Put me in a bit of an in-between state, but I'm getting more comfortable with the journey โค๏ธ
I guess the pen contouring would help a bit in seeing the surgeon's "vision". Hope you're happy with the results so far!