Thank you for posting this OP, and thank you for your reply to OP!

I literally just got back from my therapist (3rd visit) and he basically said the same stuff you're saying about neurodivergence of this kind only becoming a problem when we're forced to follow the rules of an artificial construct we call "modern civilization." Thanks for your post. I've long suspected I could have ADHD (was diagnosed with ADD as a child) , but of course, ADD doesn't really exist, and I suppose the research on things like this was more or less in its infancy, so I took prescrived children's speed for a while, it made me worse. Yes, Ritalin is methamphetamine, and anyway. I started therapy to work on identifying my problems and I never mentioned ADHD, but he said all my complaints about my own behavior points towards it. My job is in the food service industry and it has been for many years, so the chaos of that could have masked some of the stronger "symptoms", and I imagine if I had an open ended career I would be in trouble with my lack of focus and constant procrastination.

Do you mind giving me more details on how you do your to-do list and the table? I would like to try something like it because I think it might help.

Thanks again for your reply to OP. and thanks again to OP for the post and hang in there. Adaptability is humanities greatest strength..