Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
To make such a request, at the start of the body of your post, not in the title, the first line should look like the this: [Requesting Engagement from _________]
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I am not trans myself so I can't speak to that specific situation but as someone who has let many people go in life: you cannot beg people to be in your life. Family, for some people, can just be bad people you happen to share DNA with. The hardest thing to realize is they were likely always this way, you just lived your life passably before and no longer meet their approval (which despite how much it hurts right now, you do not need to find happiness or success in life).
Treat your dad with kindness as long as he treats you the same. For the others, go no-contact or limited contact if it means you can keep in touch with your dad. Let mother and siblings realize how much of a cool daughter/sister they are missing out on, but do not attach your every hope on that happening because it may never, but that is NOT a reflection on you, if you live unapologetically with good intentions. Your goal is not to hurt them (it sounds like it isn't working, anyway), but to heal YOU.
Lastly, if you haven't already, please find some sort of therapy to help you deal with the situation. Trauma can reach every square inch of your life before you realize what is happening. Support is out there that can help you better navigate this until the pain subsides (or lessens enough to carry on). Therapy gives you tools to thrive, to find a relationship in yourself that no other human can give (or take away) from you.
The disclaimer of my post is this: I am not a licensed therapist or doctor; I am just sharing a singular personal experience in the hopes that it helps in some small way. Take care of yourself.