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Family is toxic and pointless. I don't know why people subject themselves to it as adults.
I'm talking about extended family, beyond your adult household.
Because not all people have toxic extended family, lol. Most of my extended family are awesome, friendly folks. I think you meant, "avoid toxic people in general," versus, "avoid extended family specifically"?
Well yeah pretty much. It is incredibly difficult for some though to come to that realization and apply it to family, because there's so much pressure put on family relationships that nearly all abuse will be overlooked when if the people weren't family they'd never choose to interact or ever get along. The arbitrary family connection causes years of pointless suffering.
Some families are stocked with reasonably pleasant people
Her family made me appreciate my own SO much more.
There are some good families out there as I've dated myself into some of them over the years.
However there are many where you can hear the banjos playing a little too close when you go to a family event like a wedding.
It takes having your own banjos at times to know which ones are really playing them and which ones to cut out which is hard for many. I've been able to do it over the years but it wasn't easy for others to understand. I know I'm better off for it in the long run.