You know, Robin Williams was the reason that I started doing stand-up comedy? My personal hero. Knowing that he did this for Neelix, especially when he was getting a lot of hate? Robin is a saint. Also just a small thing because I wanted to honor the man...
Reason #72151.
7-21-51.
July 21st, 1951.
Robin Williams birthdate.
Carry on 💙
I agree that you can’t really compare years to years here. They clearly mature mentally and physically faster. It is altogether weird still, but so is the basic concept of dating aliens from another species.
For me the problem isn't so much in the concept itself, but rather how casually it's treated by the writing. Almost nobody on the show ever delves deep at all into how strange it is from a human point of view. It's taken as read, and the audience is just left to stew in their own notions.
Vulcans may live longer, but they mature at about the same rate, reaching adulthood in their early to mid 20s. I'm not saying humans (or talaxians) are superior to kes's race, only that there's only so much you can learn in 2 years. It's more like a 50 year old human dating a 17 year old human, it's creepy and exploitative.
It's not about "better", it's about power imbalance. When we meet her, when neelix has already been dating her for quite a while, she has the life experience of a very small child whereas he is a full grown adult who served in tne army and ran a trading business. It's a classic example of grooming.