this post was submitted on 23 Sep 2023
41 points (83.6% liked)

Asklemmy

43853 readers
718 users here now

A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions

Search asklemmy ๐Ÿ”

If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!

  1. Open-ended question
  2. Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
  3. Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
  4. Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
  5. An actual topic of discussion

Looking for support?

Looking for a community?

~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_[email protected]~

founded 5 years ago
MODERATORS
 

Social status (in my own words) is the idea that a person has a relative social worth in a certain context. For example in a class room a teacher has a high social status and therefore must be listened to. On the other hand, if that same teacher was stopped by the police for speeding, they would not have a relatively low status compared to the police officer and should therefore listen to the police officer.

Basically you are expected to treat some people with more deference than others based upon status signifiers like what role they have and what clothing they are wearing or how they speak or act towards to you.

I guess you could say it is a widely held belief that some people are better or more important than others.

How would you approach explaining that idea to a child? When is age would be too soon? When would it make sense to explain that it is a person's social status is not always justified (i.e cops, bosses, parents)? Traditionally, I guess they would learn it by trial and error but I don't necessarily think they would learn the idea that it is often abused to control others in a school setting since authority figures generally don't want others questioning them.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Some people have more friends than others.

Part of that is how friendly they are. Part is how pretty they are. Part is how smart they are and how able they are to help others. But part is how much they can afford to throw fancy parties, go to expensive schools, or get good health treatments.

The more friends you have, and the more friends your friends have, the more you can get done in society. If you want to start a business, get elected, or other things that require a lot of other people's support, having lots of friends helps.

Sure it's not fair. What you can do is figure out how to be a good friend to those around you and work well with others. This includes things called "allyship" and "solidarity" as well as just being nice to people and having useful skills.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That is much simpler and kid friendlier way than I could come up with. Kudos! A minor nitpick is that use the word friend implies that they are a peer, which in the case of role based status like a teacher doesn't really fit.

I guess what I am looking for is a way to explain the double standard where its thought of as okay teacher or parent to yell but it is frowned upon if a kid does it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I guess what I am looking for is a way to explain the double standard where its thought of as okay teacher or parent to yell but it is frowned upon if a kid does it.

Oh, well that's not social status as such. It's also "okay" in mainstream society for a police officer to yell at a corporate VP situationally, even though the VP has more buddies and more money and a better health plan and a hotter partner than the police officer does.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Good explanation, just watch out so the kid does not start being wired with it's friends. Maybe explain different kinds of friends.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This is exactly what i was thinking...

This is a perfect explanation for a sub-18 yo...

To a child, not so much...

But again, this is 2023, children these days are waaaaay smarter than us back in the 90's

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Well, you could just have the kids watch My Little Pony to learn about the power of friendship.