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there's people that don't like music.
Can you tolerate it at least, or you get annoyed if it's playing at an event/Uber/supermarket etc?
Wait, what? Are you saying you actively don't like music? I mean i can (kind of) understand if a person doesn't really get a pleasure response from listening to music, but you're saying listening to music actually gives you a displeasure response?? ALL music? It's ok if that's the case, you didn't choose to have that response, but i just want to be clear that this is what you're saying?
Man that sucks. But it seems like you're doing better these days, so that's good.
A lot of music generates unpleasant sensations for me too, though I can tolerate it a bit. Unlike the other commenter though, I can enjoy a lot of other music. What's unusual in my opinion is that it's all music, not the negative response. Lucky you if the worst that music can get from you is indifference!
I see. I totally get what you mean, it's taken me years to learn how to tolerate a lot of music I don't like. Thanks for sharing
I used to be like this, but with movies. When I first met my wife, she was utterly baffled at the concept of somebody not enjoying movies, and she made it her mission to make me enjoy them.
Come to think of it, she actually doesn't like music much. I've failed to change her opinion on that though because my taste in music is shit (and I'm proud of it.)
I am still like this with movies and TV.
It just doesn't appeal to me. I've seen a handful of movies/shows that I'd call "not boring as shit" ever, and even then, its not something I'd choose to do myself, but is fine if I'm, like, chillin and chatting with people or whatever.
Might be my neurodivergence, might also just be how much of a reader I am. Movies are just so slow compared to reading.
That's basically how I was. Honestly, the reason I enjoy movies nowadays isn't really because it's my thing, but because my wife is always so excited to show me the movies she likes, and I can't help but enjoy myself when it's making her happy.
I rarely watch movies on my own, or with other people besides her, but when I do, it's usually because I think it'd be fun to tell her all about it, and maybe watch it with her too.
I'm also bigger on reading, but I have really severe, unmedicated ADHD, so I can't sit down with an actual book for longer than a few minutes. Gotta have pretty pictures, like a manga or graphic novel or something (and even then it's hard.)
Good movies demand attention.
Good audio books I can listen to while I play my favorite video game.
I'm the opposite. I can't ever 'zone out' while listening/watching/reading/playing stuff; I can't even listen to music while playing games, and usually turn background music on low or off.
As a person who was born liking music, I indeed find it too bizarre to believe to be true.
Ba-dum tsh
I thought my significant other was one of these to a certain extent. It does weird things to me as a DJ. Turns out that she just likes the limited music that she likes and cannot stand most everything else.
that just makes it easier to make a playlist with all their favorite songs.
Chipmunks and Avett Brothers, a playlist only rose colored glasses can help with.
For me it's not like I don't like music, but there are large stretches of time, where I do not care so much for it. I would guess that I haven't actively choosen to hear music for weaks, possibly months, now. Obviously excluding the music you can't avoid, like background music in movies and video games etc.