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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If I can add my two cents, an organic meet cute is overrated. We all want that cute “we met in a bookstore and bonded over favorite authors” story but it has so little bearing on the actual relationship. My guy and I met on tinder and had a very original first date at a brewery lol. But four years in and that part is inconsequential.

Take that step and see what happens! Regardless, it sounds like you’re headed that direction, so best of luck!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

See, I never really have meet cutes. I do what you did and got no where. I've met loads of guys and girls on dating apps and they all ghost.

I don't get the hate for meet cutes outside of they are hard to achieve and take lots of patience.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It’s not “hate” for meetcutes, it’s just resistance to the idea that a cute origin story has any substantial effect on the future of the relationship.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I mean, its a common thing I see that people seem to try and discourage. Seems like people don't like it in general for some reason.