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This was originally posted as a comment under an image in 196,but due to the popularity of 196 I decided to move it to a (Hopefully) less federally public space, due to harassment concerns.

The image was a post saying,

I have so much love in my heart for trans girls like. girls girls girls literally omg youre a GIRL ISNT IT WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!! any girl who's been like wish was a girl" and then found out they actually ARE a girl is a precious jewel. I love girls

I love the idea of this, and I'm happy people can feel that way, but deep down inside me, I feel like I haven't "earned" the right to consider the possibility of calling myself a girl/woman.

People afab put up with so much shit and since I haven't felt that side of it it's like trying to be a part of a group that sees you as the enemy trying to act like one of them, you know? That may be extreme but I'm not good at words so that's the best way I can think to phrase the feeling.

Anyone else feel this way?

I will add that I have known and worked with several ftm trans people and don't really have the same feelings the other way around. Basically something "you seem like a dude as far as I can tell/am aware/concerned"

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I know this is an old thread, but the book Whipping Girl by Julie Serano may be a good read. Book is about trans misogyny and touches on some of the feelings you shared.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you!

I will definitely check it out!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just to say it, super fucking relate on lots of the feelings in this thread. Thank you for making this post lol.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

No problem! My trauma has been staying rent free for too long, it's about time I put it to work for someone (☞゚ヮ゚)☞