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Difficulty feeling attracted to "real" people (rblind.com)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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As a blind man, I know I am usually attracted to the sound of a woman's voice. It's usually just the way they say a specific word or syllable, like "uh huh". However I find this almost never happens with people in the "real world". It only happens with voice actors, other performers, and people who are completely unavailable. I know that sighted people are usually attracted to one another by a person's physical appearance, at least initially. For blind people, attraction is based on voice or touch, and touch is a big no-no most of the time. The one time I dated a woman who was blind, we were touching each other toward the end of our first date, which was quite an eye-opener, figuratively speaking. Online dating has become so visual that I've all but abandoned it. I have felt starved for arousal as someone who lives on my own because of this. Have any other blind people found they rarely feel attraction in the real world?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah, there’s quite a difference between regular people and experienced voice actors who’ve been properly recorded and edited. Like how there’s a huge difference between regular people and big actors with personal trainers, makeup and cinematography on top.

There’s nothing wrong with any of that, but I agree that this could be an issue.

In general, I think it’s important to understand people as complete and complex and not to narrow them down to a single characteristic or element. You always want to look for broader compatibility in a partner.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I've heard interviews with Catherine Disher and Mary Elizabeth McLin and thought both of them sounded super sexy even when just speaking in a normal voice. I actually met Mary at a comic con before i'd heard any of her voice work. I didn't tell her that, naturally! I just said "I really enjoyed your pannel, what would you recommend if I wanted to listen to some of your voicework?"