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It was the same on Reddit, people openly say disturbing things against children. What prompted me to post this is someone saying that babies should be put in overhead bins inside airplanes. Even if they're joking, this is a disgusting thing to say. I won't say that about anything else.

Would they say this openly about dogs or cats? I doubt it. If they do, people will be ready with pitchforks.

But no one gives a fuck when it's said about children? Why is that? I though that the general consensus were that children are cute. Maybe annoying sometimes, but still cute. But with the amount of hate I see about them here, I'm really concerned. Does anyone have any thoughts about it?

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Ok, probably going to get downvoted, but here we go. I HATE hate hate hate children and especially babies. They cause a visceral reaction in me and it’s not good.

Their awful high pitched squeals, their sticky filthy hands, their germ carrying drippy snotty faces, their awful baby talk that doesn’t make sense, their smell (barf), that awful cooing/laugh I could go on forever. Add in the terrifying idea of carrying one of those parasites in my for 9 months and then popping it out, while destroying my body? No fucking thank you.

Add in that if you say you’re childfree people ALWAYS try to convince you that you need one. “Oh when are you and husband having baybeeeeees?” Never. “What!?!?!? Why!?!?!? They are soooooooo pwecous”. “You need to have at least one. They are miracles, and gods gifts.” “Who will take care of you when you’re old, if you don’t have kids. How will you have purpose in your life?” Idk Karen, maybe I have other interests, and hobbies, or volunteer. I’m fully satisfied with my life WITHOUT kids. Of course this doesn’t ever shut people up.

There are very few places on the internet, and really anywhere, where childfree people can actually, openly say how they feel. If you say things like “god won’t someone shut that screaming brat up” in public, best case you get the look of death. More likely a bunch of people chastising you for not being sympathetic to the poor mom, whose REALLY stressed out, obviously.

All of that eventually breed the comments like “I’m going to put the baby in the microwave”. I know I’ve had to resort to it a few times with extra pushy people, who pester me every time they see me about kids. You get macabre enough and everyone eventually stops asking. Plus hyperbole is fun.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I for one totally agree with you. It took me ages to find a wife that didn't want kids as well. Ok, she can stand kids, for a short while, but wouldn't one in the house. I rather stay far away until the kids are about 12 or older. I took a vasectomy when abortion was discussed and rejected. No way I'd have more kids then wanted (0).

I don't understand why people have to like pups of their own kind at all costs. Of a lot other species I like the offspring, just not my own kind. Could be because I think we are with to many at the moment, at the cost of the rest. Ah well, nature will solve this issue for us.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Agreed, the amount of guys who told me "I'll marry you, and give you babies in a year" after dating for like 2 weeks, and like it was some goal I had, was ALARMING. I immediately ended all contact with those guys, no matter how much fun they were in the moment. Found husband like 15 years ago, and we are still very happy. MUCH happier than everyone I know with kids, and we own a business together.

Also, nevermind there are how many kids in foster care, that all those baby crazy lunatics refuse to even consider, because ew not my own progeny bullshit. I know it's not easy to adopt, because there is a suitability/means test, but that should say something, shouldn't it?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Yep, if you fail to be suitable to adopt, just make your own...

For some parents/kids I think they should introduce an exam on raising kids before they should be allowed to produce one.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

"I hate an entire group of human beings based solely on factors mostly out of their control and expect to be respected for this," is certainly an interesting point of view.

By all means stay as far away from kids as possible and never have any. I for one will never pressure you on that front; much the opposite, in fact.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Thank you for literally proving my point. You realize that people are allowed to dislike things, right? Even if you don't agree with it. You may hate dogs (for instance), that's your prerogative, but others don't get to judge you for it, simply because you know what you do and don't like. So maybe stop being a judgy asshole. I KNOW I don't like kids. Sure some might be ok for like a minute, but they aren't for me. That doesn't mean there is something wrong with me, or I'm trying to be edgy, or I have severe mental health issues, or that I'm an asshole, or that it's an "interesting point of view". It's reality for a LOT of people. I KNOW myself. I know what I do and don't like. I wish more people would realize it about themselves BEFORE they have kids, and hate them.

You are absolutely in the bottom 1% of the minority then. I can count on one hand the amount of people who have said "good for you for knowing yourself" or "right on" or any variation of agreement/acceptance/confirmation when I have unequivocally started I did not want kids. I said it as a kid (like under 10 years old), and was told I'd change my mind. I said it in my teens, and was told that I would meet the right person and change my mind. I said it in my 20s, and I was told I'd change my mind I just had to wait for my biological clock. I said it in my 30s, and I was told my clock would start soon, and I'd change my mind. I've said it in my 40s, and I'm told "it's not too late".

Not everyone likes children, and THAT'S OK.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Holy shit "I don't want to be around kids" is not the same as "I should be respected for being a racist." What a reach.
"I don't like peanut butter."
"Wow, so you hate food based on what it can't control? RACIST"