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I don't know what country you live in but are they accepting immigration?
Had a shit boss and company owner years ago (and they were two different people, just to be clear). I was mid-senior in my field. At last straw of incompetence and greed I looked for a new job. Handed over my resignation two weeks later. Work in IT, live in Europe. Don't take shit.
In my experience, in Europe also, it really depends on the country, how senior you are and whether what you do inside IT is in high demand or not.
A junior/mid-level level social media marketing person in, for example, the UK, isn't going to have the same de facto possibility to tell them "screw you" and quit, as a senior systems designer-developer in, say, Germany.
Mind you, even in the UK, if said junior/mid-level social media marketing person is a permanent employee, he or she will have way, WAY, WAY more legal rights than in the US.
Would love to emigrate to Europe myself. Familial and social reasons make that difficult. A lack of funds make it unfeasible. So for the foreseeable future I've gotta deal with the crap I've got.
But honestly, explain how this makes sense please. Why would anyone physically harm themselves to be able to stay with a company that's apparently filled with assholes anyway. Money? There's no paycheck large enough to make me slash my leg for it (edit: well, of course not none whatsoever...but nothing within an order of magnitude of a realistic salary). And surely unemployment benefits must be a thing in Canada too to keep you alive while looking for another job (in case you really feel you have to leave before finding something else).
I can't speak for Canada but the American unemployment system is broken like the rest of them are. It won't pay enough for a lot of people. I know more than one person who wouldn't get it at all after they got screwed over on an appeal which meant that they had to pay back what they were already sent, often many weeks later. If it's not paid back then you just won't receive unemployment until it is.
There's also fields it can be hard to break in to. They tend to be small and insular so getting a bad rep from one can blackball you from your dreams. Doubly so or more if you're a women or otherwise not a straight white Christian guy.
Cutting is also not an uncommon mental health issue. With any number of other things weighing down it can easily become a more reasonable seeming option.
There's a whole world of experiences out there. A lot of people are desensitized to things you'd probably find outlandish.