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People who dated a jerk/abusive person. How it started? How they convinced you to date them? How long it took them to mask off? (lemmy.ml)

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think that rather than "showing you who they really are", they just don't bother with the mask as much - it seems to take effort, and they've just stopped putting in the work. Love the "spidey-sense" reference!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Yeah, I was going with the easy way to say it, but yeah. It’s not about showing you who they are, as much as not really giving a shit about you, and being tired of having to act like the nice person, they are trying to make you think they are. As long as they are getting what they want, they are going to do as little as possible.