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Holy shit I think I can finally get it! Thank you, I feel like I've seen this idea in other words but it didn't quite hit in the same way.
That quoted bit, is that broadly rephrasing my comment? If so, I might need some more explanation.
Yeah, it would have been a lot harder to get the thing that succinctly. You talk about afab people putting up with shit and how you don't have the right to count yourself among them, but throughout this thread there were bits of explanation of how you have suffered because of expectations of womanhood that are patriarchal norms.
I see now. I was reading your comment just as a reply to the one immediately above it. I had not really considered some of this stress does eventually stem from the same patriarchal system. Wow! It makes complete sense. I think my therapist was driving at that idea at one point but didn't quite hear it that way. Ok, so I guess maybe I do relate to cis women a little bit ๐
I love your meat Gundam analogy. ๐ If my previous comment was not clear this is what finally clicked in my brain. It makes so much sense. It does feel like it's more relatable to anyone else who feels uncomfortable about whatever aspects of their meat Gundam, cis or not.