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[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Reading over it I also kinda don't know. I was rambling more or less.

I think I was trying to say I have issues connecting with people who have struggles of their own because they way I try to connect. When it's done personally by myself it doesn't work as well compared to doing the same through an organization. Like if you go to a food bank vs going to someone's house you know for food. I could drop off the food at the food bank and the person who is struggling could take it and not feel as ashamed because it is depersonalized (no one single face to attribute). Whereas coming to my home to get the food directly would be perhaps more shameful or difficult since there is someone (i.e. myself) who can direct focused judgement upon them.

I hope this didn't make it more confusing. I might cut my losses and try not to explain it more before I get even more confused.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think I get it, the gist of it anyways. I understood it as faring better in a more formal, but still being a social setting, e.g.: a mountaineering club meeting once a week, and occasionally goes up on group hikes. It's way easier to connect with someone in that situation, since there's already some common ground to stand on. It is a lot easier compared to trying to connect with a neighbor you know next to nothing about, much less a common ground.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah. I want to say that everyone has enough in common to get along and be friends but that doesn't seem to be the case in practice :/

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

And even if we do have things in common, unfortunately, at times it is not enough to build a friendship on.