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Yeah, I think you're naive.
I grew up in an abusive home where the very people who were supposed to be closest to me and love me the most would take completely benign things and weaponize them.
Once you've seen someone take genuinely, truly innocent things and use them to brutalize you as severely as if you were actually doing wrong, you realize the rest of humanity--who mostly have fewer ties to you than blood family--can easily do that too.
A world where you have to have everything hanging in the open hands weapons to those who are sociopathic enough to see that system and immediately game it for their own self-benefit.
Tricky one. Abuwe of individuals by withholding information would be much harder. Everything they do effectively goes public. It will be obvious they are gaming a system. What we have now is far worse.