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How to deal with Mom who CANNOT learn how to use a password manager, but demands I "fix it" (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I've become the tech guy, and family are extremely entitled to my services. My mom especially. BTW I can't cut her out, because I still live with her and she EXPECTS me to fix anything computer related. She won't take no for an answer.

I've tried to keep track of her passwords with a password manager, I've spent literally 8 hours in a single day filling out captchas and replacing passwords, and I've spent even more time trying to teach my mom how to use the manager.

She CAN'T learn it, and always makes a new password, which she doesnt keep track of and expects me to fix it. What the hell do it do? She uses firefox, with auto refill on, but it doesn't autofill on her iphone.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, she definitely has that problem of refusing to learn anything. She has a really terrible mindset, that now shes retired, she's never gonna bother to learn anything cause shes gonna die anyway. It's extremely frustrating to deal with because she's completely helpless.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Does she say that to you explicitly ? If so, ask her: If she's just going to die, why does it matter if she's locked out of her accounts? If she has a reason to access her accounts, she has a reason to learn how to access them.

On a mental health note, the last of Erik Erikson's stages of development relates to old age/end of life, and the choice is between dignity or despair. If you see your mother trending toward despair, she might need help with her mental health, such as seeing a therapist.

You also might consider therapy for yourself. I get the impression you've got some boundary issues with your mother that you could improve. Good luck to you