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I'd like some advice on jewelry I can wear out and about when I'm presenting as a man. Preferably something that wouldn't get too many looks on a 40 year old.

Simple gold or silver chains are an obvious choice. Bead mala bracelets too.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

I'm also adding earrings, they were basically one of the very first things I did when I started transitioning. They've become relatively common on guys, and small studs won't stand out much at all, but they're something I notice every time I look in the mirror and make me feel very femme. Plus, you can very much up how much they stand out as you get more comfortable with presenting more femme. Plus, I work with my hands a lot and can't wear anything dangly/metallic at work, and I just generally find a lot of jewelry annoying/uncomfortable to wear, but I don't notice my earrings at all except when I see them

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

You're probably right that it wouldn't stand out. The only comments I'd get would be 'so, you're having a mid life crisis huh.' Something like that....