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I'd like some advice on jewelry I can wear out and about when I'm presenting as a man. Preferably something that wouldn't get too many looks on a 40 year old.

Simple gold or silver chains are an obvious choice. Bead mala bracelets too.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 weeks ago

Earrings are great. Lobe piercings are among the easiest to manage. And you can change jewelry often to get the right level of masc/femme you're looking for (e.g., studs, dangly). I find rose gold more femme than yellow gold, but finding the right jewelry colour for your skin tone (yellow gold, rose gold, silver or white gold) also looks femme. I like basic "huggies" earrings. They're feminine without being obviously feminine, and they're very low maintenance - easy to sleep with, never have to take them out. Once you get comfy with your lobes pierced, try a second set of lobe piercings :P

Basic (e.g., black rope) anklet is an option.

I'd like to find a choker necklace that can be worn in my he/they mode