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[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

In middle school, there was this one super unpopular girl that gifted me acne medication for Christmas.... Unprompted. We weren't even friends and yes, I had acne problems like most teens did.

I never bullied anyone in my life before and since, but I did that year.... This was why she was so unpopular. The year after, she called 1 of the 2 only black kids the N word, got her ass kicked and either removed or expelled from school.

I have no idea why anyone would go around picking fights, especially with no friends to begin with. Before anyone asks, no, no mental health issues.

Edit: I also wasnt "popular" and had very little friends too. I mean, it wasnt right either way to turn bully either but I was young

[โ€“] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Even negative attention is better than no attention for some. Good chance she had a pretty bad home life, poor girl.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Maybe but none of us saw it, even my friend who eventually became her friend later on and into adulthood.... I met her mom at least twice and she was always nice and seemed very attentive, concerned about her daughter.

We also grew up very affluent. They were too.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

One of the harshest lessons I've ever had to learn, especially as someone who struggled socially growing up, is that some people don't have any friends for a good reason