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Why I regret using 23andMe: I gave up my DNA just to find out I’m British | Technology | The Guardian
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this post was submitted on 01 Dec 2024
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I refuse to do it because I'm a twin. We both agree that it's shitty if one of us does it because then the other is forced into it basically, being identical.
Also our dad was a piece of cheating shit so we don't ever want to know about that possibility.
I mean obviously it would just discover that your mom was also a cheater?
Well I mean beyond the possibility of half siblings.
You mean that?
I think of myself as someone who always wants to know, I want to know the truth, I don't like not knowing things. Plus, it could help finding out about genetic conditions and things to be on the lookout for, which can definitely be valuable.
I'd still never do one of these tests because of the privacy concerns and because I don't trust companies with something like this, especially since I have seen so many times where companies have a lax attitude or lax policies or both about security.
Yeah companies don't care. McDonald's sold my fingerprint data. I used it to clock in and out for work. I got like a 50 dollar settlement or something so that was nice <3 ty Ronald
Why do you rich people always get off flaunting your wealth in our faces?
So sorry. I'm sure with lots of hard work, nepotism and education you too may some day be able to work at a McDonald's of your own and get your prints stolen. Keep that head up champ and pull up hard on those boot straps! :)
That would indicate your mom cheated as well? Not sure exactly what your dad cheating has to do with your DNA. Wouldn't it be better to find out he wasn't your dad if he was so shitty?
We do not want to find my father's illegitimate children. He was our father, as our mother never cheated.
Fair.
I'm very sorry I didn't think of this context. I wasn't being daft intentionally, it just didn't occur to me when I was trying to figure out the situation
I can understand now. Thank you for sharing and gently explaining the situation
(I'm also very, very sorry to have implied your mother had cheated in that scenario. I did not mean to cast shade on her character)
You are much more polite than the person who was much more condescending about my mother. It's fine.
I know for facts my mother never cheated. Mother is at an age I have increasing access to medical records of previous...attempts at children. Which lines up entirely with things my father talked about, and how delighted they were when we were born. Also, my father, for his faults, absolutely could spot another cheater at 50 paces and knew my mother did not.
Also she was like. The only person at home, working in education with long hours and then taking care of us, so if she did cheat, like. Damn, she was really finding the time somehow taking care of terrible twins.
That you know of, or care to know of. To be fair that's a better reason to not do it. You know your dad is a piece of shit apparently, your mom you have a good image of, and no benefit to the image being tarnished after it matters.
Yes, but also who cares. No need to point out that "technically there's always a chance" because you can do that for basically anything.
They don't want to find other siblings
It's this. We do not want to find his other children.
But what if they're totally cool people who own a bar in Tahoe or something? You'd be missing out on the fun.
Yeah, but what if they're right wing weirdos obsessed with genealogy and they reach out to you first because they want to save you or something?
But what if it's Bill Gates and he's been trying to find his lost sibling for inheritance purposes?
¿Porque no los dos?
What if deys rich foke?
How does that work? The lab puts you in contact with people they know share your DNA?
Your DNA Relatives display name
How recently you logged into your account
Your relationship labels (masculine, feminine, neutral)
Your predicted relationship and percentage of DNA shared with your matches
Your location (optional)
Ancestor birth locations and family names (optional)
Your profile picture (optional)
Your birth year (optional)
A link to your Family Tree (optional)
Anything you have added to the “Introduce yourself!” Section (optional)
Much better than Tinder for solid matches in my experience.
Thank you; I'm sorry I missed that broader context. I try to think critically about what I read and sometimes I struggle with widening my scope of thinking